At their best:

Healthy 3s  have the desire and will to improve themselves, motivate others to be their best and adapt to any given situation. They have a healthy sense of self and can remain positive for a long time. 

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The message an Enneagram 3's heart longs to hear:

"You are loved for being you."

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In stress:

Enneagram 3s go to 9 in stress, becoming apathetic towards things that need to be done.  They know how to adjust their true identity to have the admiration of others.

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In growth:

Enneagram 3s go to 6 in growth, becoming cooperative and committed, and more aware of their feelings.

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Ways to get along with a 3:

Tell them that you like being around them.

Tell them how proud you are of them and their accomplishments

Please don’t interrupt them while they are working

Give them honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental feedback.

Help them to keep their surroundings harmonious and peaceful.​

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Things that resonate with a 3:

I enjoy entering a room and knowing I am making a good first impression.

I could persuade Steve Jobs to by an Android.

The keys to my happiness is efficiency and being acknowledged as the best.

I don’t like to be slowed down by others.

I know how to paint failure to look like success.

I can find a way to win over or connect with just about anyone.

I enjoy multitasking and I am good at it.

It is hard for me not to carry work with me on vacation.

It is hard for me to name what I am feeling (my emotions).

I like to be seen or associated with successful people.

I don’t mind slacking or cutting corners if I get the task done first.