At their best:

Healthy 8s use their incredible intuition to see possibilities in situations and in other people’s abilities that are often overlooked by others.

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The message an Enneagram 8's heart longs to hear:

"You will not be betrayed."

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In stress:

Enneagram 8s go to 5 in stress, detaching from others out of frustration and self isolating.   This withdrawal can also be motivated by fear of being betrayed.

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In growth:

Enneagram 8s go to 2 in growth, becoming more caring and open.  They tap into their desire for justice and engage with others with compassion and empathy.  

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Ways to get along with a 8:

Stand up for yourself and for them.

Be confident, strong, and direct.

Notice that they are tender and have a vulnerable side behind their strong exterior.

Acknowledge the contribution that they make but don’t flatter them.

They often speak in a direct and assertive way.  Don’t automatically assume it is a personal attack against you.

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Things that resonate with a 8:
People tell me that I am too blunt and often aggressive.
I like a little confrontation just to see the reactions of others.
In relationships that matter to me, I will insist on being brutally honest and staying in
the fight until it is “resolved”.
Trusting is hard for me.
I can spot people’s weakness when I first meet them.
Saying “no”is not an issue for me.
I make quick decisions from my gut instinct.
I don’t like it when people don’t just say what is on their mind.
I am suspicious of super nice people.
I can spot those in power the minute I walk into a room.
I like for people to stand up for themselves; it’s disappointing when they don’t.
“A good offense is better than a good defense” in my belief.
I know people respect me, but I also want to know I am loved.
I don’t have a problem confronting a bully.
I have a tender heart under my tough exterior.